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How living with chronic illness inspired me to do what I do


Chronic illness dictated my life and destroyed my dreams for many years…but it also made me who I am today and is the reason I do what I do.

Who am I? I’m a human being, a woman who has suffered in many ways, who has fought the battle with chronic illness and come out the other side stronger, happier and illness free! I am a Psychotherapist & Health Coach and work with people who are also suffering to help them also free themselves from the chains of chronic ill health. Why do I do this? Because I know it is absolutely possible!

From the age of 15 I started to suffer with ill health. By the age of 22, I had been diagnosed with 5 chronic health conditions including Fibromyalgia and Endometriosis and this ruled my life. I had always wanted to be on stage as my love for Performing Arts was my dream! Age 17 whilst at a Performing Arts College, I was told I couldn’t continue any physical activity except swimming as my knees were in a bad way and would eventually require surgery to correct both. I was crushed and believed my performing arts career was over before it had properly begun.

I wasn’t sure what I wanted to do instead so after college, I went travelling and spent a few years working in different industries trying to figure this out. Age 19, I had my first operation to remove a benign ovarian tumour. I was living in Guernsey at the time and was heavily involved with the local Drama Groups which kept my love of performing alive.

Having accepted a West End career was no longer an option, and learning that sitting in an office 9to5 was also not for me – a friend and I sat in her kitchen and looked at every possible degree option. Having grown up in a family of Social Workers, Psychologists, Psychiatrists and Surgeons, I had always been fascinated by people’s behaviour and knew I wanted to do something that helped people. I found a Counselling and Psychotherapy degree and decided this was what I wanted to do. I loved being in that environment and learning but it also brought its own challenges. I had to maintain a degree whilst battling various chronic health conditions all the while going on an intense journey of self-awareness and development.

After qualifying, I worked as a therapist for quite some time and really enjoyed it. I had by this stage also discovered Salsa dancing! After seeing a specialist, we agreed that it was ok for me to dance salsa as it was low impact on my knees which was the most amazing news having not danced for 5 years. I eventually started to teach salsa and this became the main focus in my life together with the therapy work. As time went on, I felt I wanted to try and re-pursue a career in Performance (acting) so I went back to Drama School. My health was hugely impacted by all of this but I thought I knew best so pushed through. I didn’t want to accept that I ‘couldn’t’ live the life I wanted. As a woman in my 20’s with ‘so much going for her’, I was angry and in denial about my health. By this point, I had also been diagnosed with Hemiplegic Migraine, M.E., had endured 5 operations and also Pneumonia..twice.

I used to believe I could do it all by myself, and tried to, so I turned down help when I needed it. I didn’t always trust my intuition. I was stuck in a place of isolation, frustration and feeling like there was no way out – after all, the doctors kept telling me there was no cure and I just had to live with it. I tried to maintain a brave face and a positive attitude but inside, I was feeling desperate, scared and defeated – no one seemed to understand.

Whilst I was at Drama School, I accepted I needed help and finally listened to friends and family who offered support. By this time, I had also given up teaching and dancing as I was no longer physically really able to. My dear friend Jo recommended I see a practitioner specifically related to chronic health and my brother was kind enough to pay for the sessions/training as I was not in a financial position to do so at the time due to not being able to work much.

Throughout the process of this training and working with the coach, I came to understand the mind-body connection, had some really honest conversations with myself and stepped out of the victim mentality I was so entrenched in. I realised I already had all the answers and resources I needed, I just didn’t know how to access or utilise them. This was an absolute revelation to me!

Within days, both friends and family couldn’t get over the difference in me and how wonderful it was to have ‘me’ back. I can’t explain how it felt to look in the mirror and finally see who I was again – I really missed her. With my new-found lease of life, I hot footed it to London to chase my Acting dreams! I had a wonderful few years there but also knew deep down I wanted to be helping people again. I took the decision to go and learn as much as I could to be able to provide the best service possible in a way that involved my own experience. I studied NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) to Master Practitioner Level, NLP Coaching, Life Coaching, Youth Coaching, Hypnotherapy and the Neuroscience of Brain Health and Wellness.

I learned a huge amount on this journey and continue to discover new things but most importantly, and however cliché it sounds, I learned how to love myself and to look after myself not just physically but also emotionally, mentally and spiritually.

With the knowledge that it is possible to overcome chronic health conditions, together with all the new learnings and the desire to help others overcome their health issues to, I set up my private practice believing that anyone can help themselves and affect positive change in their lives if they want to, when they understand how to. I absolutely believe we are what we think (believe) and that with the right information, intervention and integration, we can all live the happy, healthy and harmonious lives we want to. Of course it isn't just about brain health and mindset - we must also learn to look after our bodies and brains by feeding them good nutrition and keeping them physically active.

If any of this resonates with you or if you would like to know more about how I recovered, I would love to hear from you so please feel free to get in touch! Drop me an email at or take a look at my website Six years on, I am still fighting fit and will continue to help as many people as I can also find freedom.

Is it possible to be positive ALL the time?


This is a question I have been asked many times and a conversation piece that fascinates me. Pondering this, I’d like to share with you what I think and how I feel about it.

So this past week, I have been discussing the theme of having a positive mindset and how we can train the mind to start seeing things more positively even in negative circumstances.

Is this the same as being positive or happy all the time? Personally, I would say no. I would also say that trying to sell the idea of being positive or happy all the time is somewhat misguided.

How many of you know someone who is ‘always positive’ in that annoying ‘the sun is shining and magic rainbow fairy dust is coming out my ass’ kinda way? We all know someone like that right? Do you think they genuinely feel like that all the time? Of course they don’t! It’s an exaggeration much like the ‘life is just frickin awesome and perfect’ social media profiles.

Let me be honest – life sucks sometimes. We will experience pain, loss, grief, anger, fear and frustration along with a multitude of other emotions because this is what makes us so wonderfully human, and that’s ok! It’s ok to not always be ok, it’s ok to be vulnerable. It’s in these times where we are able to learn so much more about ourselves and to begin to love ourselves fully. If we are to be kind to ourselves, that means being kind at all times, through the good, the bad and the ugly. So no, I don’t believe it is possible to be positive or happy ALL the time.

However, is it possible to have a positive mindset? Yes, absolutely. But what’s the difference?

Let me explain – training our minds to see the positive in every situation is having a positive mindset. Being grateful for even the smallest thing is having a positive mindset. Taking learnings and understandings from negative situations is having a positive mindset. Accepting that life isn’t always easy and doesn’t always go our way is having a positive mindset. Being kind and compassionate to ourselves and others, even in times of darkness, is having a positive mindset. And so on…

I’m not saying it’s easy to maintain a positive mindset all the time because it isn’t. It’s about a choice and it requires effort but it’s absolutely possible.

What is Health and Well-being?

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As a Health and Well-being Coach, I often get asked this question. I’m sure we would all answer this question slightly differently, as we are all different after all…or are we?

When it comes to Health and Well-being, I believe we are all remarkably similar. To not just live day by day, but to be at our best, we need to look after all aspects of ourselves – physically, mentally, emotionally and even spiritually.

Yes we all have our own ways of dealing with things, our own coping strategies, our own beliefs and values but the one thing we do share, on a basic human level, is that these aspects of our lives need to be maintained in order to live a healthy life.

How many of you watch what you eat but don’t exercise regularly? Or exercise regularly but don’t take time out to re-charge mentally? Or maybe you do things like meditation to help maintain mental clarity but still hold on to emotional baggage? All of these factors have an impact on our life and there needs to be balance. Trying to find balance living in today’s ever busy world? Sometimes it just doesn’t seem like it’s possible right?

I’m here to tell you it is. I can’t say it’s easy, because it isn’t, but I absolutely do know that it’s worth it. It took me 12 long years of battling chronic ill health to really understand the meaning and importance of Health and Well-being, and I would love to help you understand what it means for you too – in the way that works best for you, to enable you to live a life that you want.