This is a question I have been asked many times and a conversation piece that fascinates me. Pondering this, I’d like to share with you what I think and how I feel about it.
So this past week, I have been discussing the theme of having a positive mindset and how we can train the mind to start seeing things more positively even in negative circumstances.
Is this the same as being positive or happy all the time? Personally, I would say no. I would also say that trying to sell the idea of being positive or happy all the time is somewhat misguided.
How many of you know someone who is ‘always positive’ in that annoying ‘the sun is shining and magic rainbow fairy dust is coming out my ass’ kinda way? We all know someone like that right? Do you think they genuinely feel like that all the time? Of course they don’t! It’s an exaggeration much like the ‘life is just frickin awesome and perfect’ social media profiles.
Let me be honest – life sucks sometimes. We will experience pain, loss, grief, anger, fear and frustration along with a multitude of other emotions because this is what makes us so wonderfully human, and that’s ok! It’s ok to not always be ok, it’s ok to be vulnerable. It’s in these times where we are able to learn so much more about ourselves and to begin to love ourselves fully. If we are to be kind to ourselves, that means being kind at all times, through the good, the bad and the ugly. So no, I don’t believe it is possible to be positive or happy ALL the time.
However, is it possible to have a positive mindset? Yes, absolutely. But what’s the difference?
Let me explain – training our minds to see the positive in every situation is having a positive mindset. Being grateful for even the smallest thing is having a positive mindset. Taking learnings and understandings from negative situations is having a positive mindset. Accepting that life isn’t always easy and doesn’t always go our way is having a positive mindset. Being kind and compassionate to ourselves and others, even in times of darkness, is having a positive mindset. And so on…
I’m not saying it’s easy to maintain a positive mindset all the time because it isn’t. It’s about a choice and it requires effort but it’s absolutely possible.